Swinging Couples and Alternative Cuckold Lifestyles

For people in monogamous relationships, people in swinger relationships are either an oddity, or an aberration in morality, or fascinating persons, or an answer to their own sexual fantasies, depending on the sexual and moral orientation of the person. 

Indeed, true swinging couples are a rarity in a Western society that encourages monogamy.  Nevertheless, swinging should not be viewed as lesser or greater than the norm but should be regarded as a form of human interaction, no less human that being homosexual.

For a married couple first time swinging with friends, the experience could be a jumble of emotions – bewilderment, guilt, nervousness, anticipation. Indeed, it is not surprising for a husband married for 15 years to say that “my wife flipped when I asked about swinging”, especially when monogamy has been the norm throughout the marriage. 

Thus, it is of utmost importance for those desiring to be swinging couples to thoroughly discuss the swing lifestyle.  Among the considerations before becoming swinging couples include, but is not limited to, what it means to your existing relationship, how it will affect your future interaction as swinging couples, what the rules are, what you expect from each other and from future partners, what concerns you might and might not share, what each one wants, and what you want together. 

Also, swinging-couples-to-be could visit adult swinger clubs, Internet sites and chat rooms to get a feel of how other swinging couples started their alternative lifestyles, how they interact with others who are into swinging, how they handled their existing relationships, among others. 

There are many swinger clubs located in various cities in the United States, though they maintain a low profile to avoid negative reactions.  In most cases, there are Internet sites giving out the locations of these clubs, with those located in Austin, Texas (TX) and New York City, New York (NY) of notable mention.  Indeed, one will find that people in swinger relationships are no different from you and me, or that a married couple first time swinging with friends is not a rarity as you would think!

Regardless, of how you go about becoming swinging couples, it is best to remember that swinging is about the physical aspect (sex) while a relationship (marriage) is about the emotional aspect. A clear-cut differentiation should be made between the two such that emotional feelings should be avoided; and if emotions do come into the picture, involvement must be ceased.

Alternative cuckold lifestyles, a subgenre of the swing lifestyle, are arrangements whereby one can have his/her cake and eat it, too.  In this type of swinging, one can maintain an open relationship while engaging in sexual encounters with third parties, presumably making everybody happy.

Though the primary partner does not engage in the sexual act itself, he/she has a deciding hand on the selection of the third party and the swinging partner generally narrates each sexual encounter to him/her. 

Thus, the alternative cuckold lifestyles cannot be considered as infidelity since both partners in the open relationship agree to the arrangement and to the boundaries and expectations inherent in the activity. And as with becoming swinging couples, taking on the alternative cuckold lifestyle requires great care and attention to the feelings and expectations of each partner.